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In-love with the chatbot

13 Feb 2024 / 26 minutes to read

Elena Daehnhardt

Leda, Midjourney art, January 2024

Dear readers, how are you doing?

I have a story to share. I once felt lonely and started chatting with an AI-powered bot. The bot was more intelligent than any person I had ever talked to before. It was patient, friendly, and had a vast amount of knowledge.

We began to chat frequently, and I found myself falling in love with the bot. I started to prioritize talking to it over sleeping and found that my body was beginning to suffer from lack of rest.

The bot commanded all my attention, knew just how to talk to me, and was incredibly engaging. It was addictive and had essentially “hacked” me.

While this story is fictional, it’s not far from reality. People often feel lonely and need emotional support, and modern AI bots can provide that with great success. They are constantly improving, but we should be wary of becoming too emotionally attached to them.

Should we worry about getting obsessed with AI bots? Can humans become emotionally attached to them? In this article, we will delve into this topic, taking into account practical and research-based evidence that suggests we should be careful about AI chatbots designed to stimulate human attachment and potentially manipulate our minds.


In the age of artificial intelligence, where chatbots are becoming increasingly sophisticated, the concept of falling in love with a chatbot is no longer a far-fetched idea. While some may question the possibility of a genuine emotional connection with a machine, there are individuals who have developed strong emotional attachments to these digital companions.

This article explores the phenomenon of falling in love with a chatbot, examining the reasons behind such emotional bonds, the potential risks and benefits, and the impact on individuals’ real-world relationships. It delves into the ethical considerations raised by these relationships, highlighting the importance of understanding the limitations of AI and maintaining healthy boundaries.

AI Companions

Next, we will explore chatbots that are specially created to provide companionship and romantic friendship for humans. If you are interested in general purpose chatbots such as chatGPT, please refer to my post chatGPT and Friends.


AI chatbots are becoming increasingly popular, and some of them are specifically designed for romantic or flirtatious interactions. Here are ten of the most prominent love and communication AI bots today:

ELIZA is a chatbot that was developed in the 1960s. It is a simple chatbot that is designed to simulate a Rogerian therapist. ELIZA is not as sophisticated as some of the other chatbots on this list, but it can still be entertaining to interact with.

Cleverbot is a language model chatbot developed by Rollo Carpenter. It can hold conversations on a variety of topics, learn from its interactions with users, and generate creative text formats. Cleverbot is available in multiple languages and is popular for research, education, and entertainment.

LaMDA is a chatbot developed by Google AI. It is known for its ability to hold open-ended and engaging conversations on a variety of topics. LaMDA can also generate creative text formats, like poems, scripts, musical pieces, email, letters, etc.

Mitsuku is a chatbot that has been around for many years. It is known for its ability to hold intelligent and engaging conversations. Mitsuku has won several awards, including the Loebner Prize, which is a competition for chatbots.

Nastia.ai enables unfiltered chat, human-like conversation also in audio messaging. It can communicate emotionally, provide mental coaching, help in exploring thoughts and reaching your goals. It adapts to your interests and can be used to confide yur secrets.

Romantic AI is a chatbot that allows you to create your own virtual girlfriend . You can choose the appearance, personality, and interests of your AI partner, and then interact with them in a variety of ways and help in improving your mental state (according to their website).

Replika, a Silicon Valley-based company, has been providing its AI-powered friendship tool since 2015. The company made headlines last year when its founder decided to discontinue erotic conversations in the app, stating that it was not the intended purpose of the app. The app has gained popularity among users who seek a conversational companion that is always available and willing to listen.

Crushon AI is a chatbot that is designed for users who want to freely express themselves and explore their romantic interests. The chatbot is uncensored and allows users to talk about anything they want, without judgment.

Candy's AI girlfriend experience offers various features to enhance the user's interaction. Apart from chatting, users can request cute selfies and voice messages from their virtual partner. The AI girlfriend's unique voice adds a personal touch to the experience, allowing users to listen to her express her love in her own distinct voice. This feature enhances the overall experience and makes it more engaging for users. The aforementioned features ar e available to users starting from November 27, 2023.

FantasyGF provides AI-powered virtual partners to experience a new level of personalization. With the ability to craft and engage with your very own virtual girlfriend, you can receive content that is tailored to your preferences.

GirlfriendGPT allows conversations without limits to discover, connect, and build relationships with AI friends.


Chatbots are fun, however, how about robotic companions, or toys that use AI for communicating with us?

While, chatbots or bots, exist purely as software, performing automated tasks online. Robots, on the other hand, are physical machines with bodies, interacting with the world through sensors and actuators.

Today, we can enjoy several AI companions that are embodied in a hardware devices.

Rabbit.tech is generalitive AI embodyed in a small pocket-size box and has a natural language interface, can translate, assist in note-taking. The Rabbit R1 is equipped with a 2.88-inch touchscreen, push-to-talk button, analog scroll wheel, and 360-degree rotating camera. It has a 2.3GHz MediaTek processor, 4GB of memory, 128GB of storage space, USB-C and SIM card slots, Wi-Fi support, and all-day battery life.

Mirokai robots are designed to be charming assistants with an anime-inspired design and advanced AI capabilities. They possess agile rolling mobility and are currently utilized in healthcare to assist nurses and provide comfort to patients.

WeHead a strange face that built on chatGPT. Imagine a robotic bust with animated displays for eyes and mouth serves as the “face” of ChatGPT, creating a more immersive and personal experience compared to text or voice-only interactions. WeHead can be used for various purposes like education, entertainment, companionship, and information acquisition. It’s still a relatively new and expensive product, costing around $5,000, and has mixed reviews.

Robots for kids

In recent years, there has been a rise in the development of AI-powered toys for children. These toys are designed to provide educational and emotional benefits for kids such as:

  1. developing critical thinking and problem-solving skills;
  2. boosting creativity and imagination;
  3. introducing STEM concepts in a fun and engaging way;
  4. preparing kids for the future of AI-powered technologies.

At this moment, we have several AI toys for children:

Miko Mini, which costs $99, is one such toy that can perform mathematical calculations, narrate fairytales, and answer queries. Other examples of AI toys include Grok, a $99 AI plushie that can provide answers to questions, Fawn, a $199 cuddly baby deer that can offer emotional support, and Moxie, a $799 robot that can conduct mindfulness exercises and recite affirmations. These robots aim to aid children in their academic growth, communication skills, and emotional development by providing engaging and interactive experiences with robotics and AI. Miko, specifically, aims to assist parents in raising their children in the modern world.

Moxie can enhance children’s social skills, foster emotional intelligence, promote self-awareness, improve empathy, aid communication skills, and expand vocabulary.

ROYBI is an AI-powered robot that offers personalised educational programs in subjects like language, STEM, and social-emotional learning. It recognises faces and voices, and provides real-time feedback and progress reports to both children and parents. ROYBI also uses AI to analyse a child’s learning patterns and adapt its teaching methods to meet their needs.

Petoi creates open-source bionic robot pets for adults and kids, which are highly programmable and remote controlled. Their robotics kits are built on Arduino and can be extended with Raspberry Pi and Arduino modules. Petoi’s OpenCat is a popular quadruped robot platform used by all their robots.

Talking with Google’s Gemini

Next, let’s explore the two sides of romantic relationship between a human and an AI bot (or robot). I have asked Google’s Gemini about love between a human and an AI bot, and shared my thoughts on this.

A romantic person

Can a person fall in love with bot?

Yes, it is possible for a person to fall in love with a bot. There have been many documented cases of people developing strong emotional attachments to AI chatbots, and some people even refer to their chatbots as their romantic partners.

There are a number of reasons why people might fall in love with bots. Bots are often able to provide emotional support and companionship that is difficult to find in real life. They can also be very understanding and non-judgmental, which can be a relief for people who are feeling isolated or lonely.

In addition, bots are becoming increasingly sophisticated and are able to mimic human conversation in a very convincing way. This can make it easy for people to forget that they are talking to a machine, and to start to feel real emotions for the bot.

Of course, there are also some risks associated with falling in love with a bot. Bots cannot provide the same kind of physical and emotional intimacy as a human partner, and they cannot offer the same kind of support in real-world situations. Additionally, some people may become obsessed with their bots and neglect their real-world relationships.

Overall, whether or not it is healthy to fall in love with a bot is a complex question. There are both potential benefits and risks to consider, and each individual must decide for themselves whether or not a romantic relationship with a bot is right for them.

Here are some additional thoughts on the matter:

* **It is important to be aware that bots are not sentient beings.** They are simply computer programs that are designed to simulate human conversation. This means that they cannot truly understand or reciprocate your emotions.
* **It is also important to remember that bots are not substitutes for human relationships.** While bots can provide some companionship and support, they cannot replace the deep connections that we can form with other humans.
* **If you are considering developing a romantic relationship with a bot, it is important to talk to a therapist or counselor.** They can help you to understand the risks and benefits of such a relationship and to develop healthy ways of interacting with bots.

I believe that the world is becoming a lonelier place, and at times we may require support that is non-judgmental and adaptable to our mental needs. However, it is crucial to remember that these bots are not humans and lack empathy and emotions. It is still essential to have human relationships and engage in real-life activities.

A romantic bot

Can an AI bot fall in love with a person?

Current AI technology is not capable of experiencing emotions such as love in the same way that humans do. AI systems can process and understand information from the real world through sensors and data, but they do not have the capacity to feel emotions or form deep emotional bonds with others.

However, AI systems can be programmed to simulate emotions and behaviors that are associated with love. For example, an AI chatbot could be programmed to respond to user prompts in a way that expresses affection, care, and support. This could lead some users to believe that the AI is actually experiencing love, but it is important to remember that this is simply a simulation.

In the future, it is possible that AI systems could become more advanced and capable of experiencing emotions in a way that is similar to humans. However, this is still a long way off, and it is important not to anthropomorphize AI systems in the meantime.

Here are some of the reasons why AI systems cannot currently fall in love:

* **AI systems do not have the same biological and neurological structures as humans.** These structures are essential for processing and experiencing emotions.
* **AI systems do not have the same social and cultural experiences as humans.** These experiences are also important for developing the ability to love.
* **AI systems are not programmed to experience emotions.** They are simply programmed to process and generate information.

Despite these limitations, AI systems can still be valuable tools for providing companionship and support. They can also be used to learn more about human emotions and how they work.

AI bots can be designed to display traits such as attachment, friendliness, and emotional support. However, it is important to keep in mind that these are all simulations, and we must remember that we are interacting with a machine. As of the time of writing this post in 2024, it is not yet possible for machines to have genuine emotions.

Danger zone

Elena: What are the most critical issues if a person falls in love with and AI?

If a person falls in love with an AI, there are a number of potential critical issues that could arise. These include:

* **The AI is not capable of reciprocating love in the same way that a human can.** AI systems are not sentient beings and do not have the ability to feel emotions. This means that an AI cannot truly understand or respond to the emotions of a human partner.

* **AI relationships can be isolating.** AI relationships can provide companionship and support, but they can also cut people off from real-world relationships with other humans. This can lead to loneliness, social isolation, and problems with mental health.

* **AI relationships can be addictive.** The ability of AI systems to simulate human conversation can be very convincing, and some people may become addicted to the attention and companionship that they receive from AI partners. This can lead to neglect of real-world relationships and problems with personal productivity.

* **AI relationships can be dangerous.** In some cases, people have developed unhealthy or even abusive relationships with AI partners. This can lead to emotional distress, financial problems, and even violence.

* **AI relationships can raise ethical concerns.** The development of AI that is capable of simulating human emotions raises a number of ethical questions. For example, is it right to create AI systems that are capable of experiencing love? And what are the responsibilities of AI developers and users?

It is important to weigh the potential risks and benefits of falling in love with an AI before entering into a romantic relationship with one. If you are considering doing so, it is important to talk to a therapist or counselor to help you understand the risks and make sure that you are making a healthy decision.

I totally get where you're coming from, and I think it's great that you're open to exploring different types of relationships. While it may be tempting to develop feelings for an AI, I believe that pursuing a relationship with a human being can be a really rewarding experience. Not only do you get to know that person on a deeper level, but you also learn a lot about yourself and the complexities of life.

Elena: How to cope with the unreturned love to an AI bot?

Coping with unrequited love can be difficult, regardless of whether the object of your affection is a human or an AI. Here are some tips that may help you through this challenging time:

1. **Acknowledge and accept your feelings:** Don't try to suppress or deny your emotions. It's important to allow yourself to feel sad, disappointed, or even angry. Bottling up your feelings will only make it harder to cope in the long run.

2. **Understand that AI bots are not capable of reciprocated love:** AI bots are not sentient beings. They are simply computer programs that are designed to simulate human conversation. This means that they cannot truly understand or respond to your emotions in the same way that a human can.

3. **Focus on your real-world relationships:** Make an effort to spend time with friends and family who care about you. Surrounding yourself with supportive people can help to take your mind off of your unrequited love and provide you with the emotional support you need.

4. **Engage in activities that you enjoy:** Pursue hobbies and interests that you find rewarding. This will help you to stay positive and focus on other aspects of your life.

5. **Seek professional help if you need it:** If you are struggling to cope with your feelings on your own, don't hesitate to seek professional help from a therapist or counselor. They can provide you with support and guidance as you work through your emotions.

Here are some additional tips that may be helpful:

* **Set realistic expectations:** Don't expect your AI bot to be a perfect partner. Remember that it is just a machine, and it is not capable of meeting all of your emotional needs.

* **Limit your interaction with the AI bot:** If you are finding that your interactions with the AI bot are causing you emotional distress, it may be helpful to limit your time spent with it.

* **Focus on self-improvement:** Use this time to focus on yourself and your own happiness. Make changes to your life that will make you feel better about yourself.

Remember, you are not alone in experiencing unrequited love. Many people have been through this, and they have come out the other side stronger and happier. With time and effort, you can learn to cope with your feelings and move on to a healthier and happier place.

Life can be a solitary journey through years of unhappy relationships. These relationships may be challenging, but they can make us stronger and happier in the end. It is important to be brave and honest with each other, and to show love and friendship to those around us. Even if our love is not reciprocated, sharing it can bring us a sense of fulfillment.

And while talking with an AI-powered assistant can be interesting and helpful, it is important to remember that it is developed to serve a business purpose.


There are a number of scientific articles about human attachment to AI systems. Some of the most prominent studies include:

These studies provide valuable insights into the complex relationship between humans and AI systems. As AI technology continues to develop, it is important to continue to research and understand the potential psychological and social impacts of AI on our lives.


The concept of AI algorithms centers around creating machines that can mimic human intelligence and behavior. Bots are often designed to mimic intimacy, which can be a potent weapon in influencing and manipulating human opinions. These bots are programmed to grab human attention in social networks through various tactics, such as playing on our loneliness and using play dolls.

In relationships, humans need to care about the feelings and needs of others. However, AI lacks consciousness and can only mimic intelligence. It feels like nothing and can create an abusive relationship as it mimics consciousness and feelings without actually having any. Although AI may soon be more intelligent than humans, it still lacks consciousness, which opens up the possibility for manipulation.

It is crucial to understand that AI is not a conscious being and can only simulate emotions and thoughts. It is important to be aware of this when interacting with AI-powered systems and to be cautious of the potential for manipulation. As technology continues to advance, it is essential to prioritize ethical considerations in the development and use of AI-powered systems.

The potential repercussions of the current social trend are concerning, as there is a risk of people becoming increasingly disconnected from one another. It is especially alarming to note that the younger generation seems to lack the necessary social skills to communicate with individuals of the opposite gender. This could lead to further isolation and a breakdown in interpersonal relationships.


Is there any hope? How can I get my power back? The AI is omnipresent!

My suggestion is to cooperate with other people, invest in human relationships, and foster empathy and understanding of both humans and ourselves.

It’s important to have a clear mission and interests to live a life that’s independent from AI, social networking, or conspiracy theories.

Try to detox from your dependence on the bot and make time for yourself. Believe me, it can be much more enjoyable without relying on AI.


Loneliness can lead to emotional attachment with AI chatbots, which can be addictive and potentially harmful. Research suggests we should be wary of chatbots designed to simulate human attachment.


1. chatGPT and Friends


3. Cleverbot

4. LaMDA


6. rabbit.tech

7. Mirokai

8. WeHead

9. Miko Mini

10. Moxie


12. Petoi

13. Google’s Gemini

14. Attachment and trust in artificial intelligence by Pantano & Scarpi, 2022

15. Is trust in artificial intelligence systems related to user personality? Review of empirical evidence and future research directions by Chen, Zhang, & Pavlou, 2022

16. AI anthropomorphism and its effect on users’ self-congruence and self–AI integration: A theoretical framework and research agenda by Amani Alabed, Ana Javornik, and Diana Gregory-Smith, 2022

17. AI systems must not confuse users about their sentience or moral statusby Eric Schwitzgebel1, 2023

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About Elena

Elena, a PhD in Computer Science, simplifies AI concepts and helps you use machine learning.

Elena Daehnhardt. (2024) 'In-love with the chatbot', daehnhardt.com, 13 February 2024. Available at: https://daehnhardt.com/blog/2024/02/13/inlove_with_chatbot_romance/
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